In Scotland, the Boarding Schools Association wants to offer places at their schools for problem children as they are convinced that a similar scheme already operating in the UK has been of great benefit to vulnerable children there. Reactions have been mixed and some parents are concerned about infiltration of drugs and other problems which boarding schools have. This is one scenario where parenting is removed from the home and placed in the hands of caregivers and /or teachers and there are implications for child development.
The same arguments could be applied to sending problem children to military schools in the USA. Parents often get over this problem by following a behavior modification course which will give them the strategies to deal with problem children without actually having to send them away from home. I knew one parent who wanted the option of a military school for her six-year old son!
Let us look at another problem children scenario. The parents’ influence on a child is enormous and once parents are aware of this, they seek to be good role models for their children. The young child or toddler will model his behavior on yours and that also has implications for the type of person you will look for when looking for as babysitters or people to look after your children. Your behavior when having a difference of opinion with your spouse will also be noted and any violence or aggression on your part will have a negative impact on the child’s development. If you are loving and consistent in all your relationships within the family group and even outside it, this will be a great role model for the child to follow. Statistics speak for themselves as the number of problem children from broken and troubled homes far exceeds those who come from happier and luckier families.
Another problem children scenario is where your problem child who may be defiant or have ADHD, is demanding a lot of your attention and the siblings may feel neglected. Very often the siblings will compensate for this by either being extra good and excelling at school or go to the other extreme where they will act out to get the attention they are missing.
Whatever problem scenario you have to cope with, a behavior therapy program will work wonders and will help you set up a behavior plan, with rewards and consequences. The strategies you can learn from a program like this will help you get through all the possible scenarios and with problem children and you can begin to relax again.